Updated: Oct 23, 2018
I believe we are drastically mistaken when it comes to the term selfish.
It’s important to be selfish.
What society has taught us; is selfish, is actually the essence of self love.
I believe so many people think they are helping and being caring but they are actually helping others without putting their own needs first. This leads to feeling tired and becoming burnt out.
This behaviour is being a detriment to themselves and the people they are supposedly helping.
We do things for other's over doing things for ourselves and then we in tern look outwardly to others to support us in the burn out or worn out stage.
So what if we all choose to do things for ourselves first?
And avoid the burn out all together.
What if we say no to people more often, unless you are truly in a state to give.
It’s important to not let peoples needs from you determine your behaviour or choices.
Because it’s your job to love you.
And it’s their job to love themselves.
It’s your job to put yourself first and make what you need a priority.
So It’s important for every one to be a little bit more selfish.
My mission at this time is to be selfish and to deeply love and nurture myself so much that I become so full of love it is over flowing
It’s is my belief if we all follow this, then the love and light we provide for our selfs will fill us up so much it becomes overflowing. The over flow will then radiate out to others.
I have made a commitment to myself to not do anything for anyone else untles it’s from overflow.
I found myself doing so much for others as much as possible because I thought that made me a good person but this left me with nothing left for myself. Im sure you can relate?
When your doing things for others when your so empty it doesn’t help anyone, it doesn’t help them and it definitely didn’t help me.
I also began to feel like a door matt, like everything I was doing became expected rather then appreciated. I know so many of you reading this will understand exactly how this feels.
I also know I have been guilty of under-appreciating what people do for me at times.
How many people are out there over extending themselves?
And never taking time out to do what they really love?
I invite everyone to put themselves first and do things that deeply feed their soul.
Be so selfish and fill your self up with so much love you are just bursting at the seams.
Then do things for other people from that place, do things for others because you are so so happy you can’t help but spread that around because you want everyone to feel as amazing as you do.
The things you do for others will feel so good because you feel good and that will inspire people around you.
The most supportive thing you can do for your friends and family is to be happy.
Next time you feel like your being selfish ask yourself is this selfish or self loving?
Or If you are feeling like someone in your life should be more supportive, Ask how you can be more supportive towards yourself? Because maybe what you really need is to choose to be deeply supportive, understanding and loving to yourself.
I love you and I hope you love you too X
Until next time, Melissa Jane
Melissa Jane, Intuitive, writer, owner of Soul Nourish. Passionate about shifting you from where you are into where you want to be and healing from a soul level in the process. Soul Nourish is about helping you shift what isn't working, so you can live life in a way that brings you joy, by removing your subconscious and energetic blocks. Whether you want to manifest a healthy body, soulful relationship, confidence, purpose or peace. We begin to create these things naturally as we shift what is blocking us from receiving. With my intuitive gifts, powerful vibrational remedies, subconscious mind work, & energy work.
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